First the really good news, I have replaced the element and the Mini is working again
I used your method Endo, of a hammer and piece of wood to remove the 'castle nut'. The element had to be prised off, fortunately as it started to come away, water came out in a relatively controlled way straight into the mug I placed below. When the water stopped I pulled out the element and was surprised what a state it was in. The metal sheaf had split in more than one place and the whole element was 'swollen' and deformed. There was little scale on it, but the white stuff inside the element had started to come out and that's what caused the water to become cloudy. I attach a photo of the element.
I couldn't remove the temperature probe tube even with the correct allen key and a hammer. The harder I tried, the more bits came out the element and the tube remained fixed. In the end I had to use a new tube which I screwed in to the new element having covered the thread with PTFE tape. I thoroughly cleaned the boiler out (it was free of scale) and then a new 'O' ring and Molykote 111 lubricant and sealant (European name for Dow 111 food safe valve lubricant and sealant) to seal the new element in place.
I didn't want the new element to start heating in an empty boiler, so I kept the element disconnected, turned the machine on, and let the group boiler fill up. Once full I connected the element up, and as if by magic the Mini came back to life!
Thanks so much for all your help and that of La Spaziale UK who have given me (as a novice in repairing coffee machines), so much help, encouragement, support and prompt arrival of spare parts.